Caos was the stage name of a woman who had survived a childhood steeped in manipulation, deceit, and physical suffering. Growing up with a mother who suffered from Munchausen syndrome by proxy, Caos endured countless doctor visits, unnecessary treatments, and hospital stays. Her mother fabricated or caused illnesses in her, craving the sympathy and attention that came from being the “devoted” parent of a sick child. For years, Caos felt trapped, her body and mind controlled by her mother’s lies. She wasn’t allowed to be a normal kid, and any attempts to speak out were met with disbelief or guilt. It wasn’t until she reached her late teens that she managed to escape the toxic environment, but the emotional scars ran deep.
Music became her way of processing the pain. Her chosen instrument was the guitar, and she quickly found comfort in open tunings, particularly open G—a tuning that resonated with the vulnerability and rawness of her experiences. With the open strings ringing out in rich harmonics, she felt she could express the confusion, betrayal, and eventual empowerment that marked her journey. She started writing songs that told the stories no one had believed, capturing the twisted dynamic between her and her mother, as well as her eventual freedom. Her unique style, often dissonant but hauntingly beautiful, drew in listeners who connected with the depth of her lyrics and the unflinching honesty of her music. Thus, her solo project, simply called Caos, evolved into a full band that would go on to share these intimate stories with a wider audience.
One of her most powerful songs, You Want the Attention, but I Feel the Pain, became a defining piece of her early work. It’s written in open G tuning (D G D G B D), using simple but emotional chord shapes to reflect the rawness of her memories. Here are the lyrics and chords:
You Want the Attention, but I Feel the Pain
(Open G Tuning: D G D G B D)
[Intro]
G – D – Cadd9
(Let the open strings ring out, slow and steady)
[Verse 1]
G D
You said you loved me, but it’s a twisted game,
Cadd9 G
Wrapped in white coats, you called out my name,
G D
You craved their eyes, you needed their praise,
Cadd9 G
But I was the one locked in your maze.
[Pre-Chorus]
Em7 Cadd9
Every pill, every scar, wasn’t mine to bear,
G D
But you smiled as if you really cared.
[Chorus]
G D
You want the attention, but I feel the pain,
Cadd9 G
You wear the mask while I wear the chains,
G D
I was your story, your lie to tell,
Cadd9 G
But I lived it, I lived through your hell.
[Instrumental Break]
G – D – Cadd9
(Slow and deliberate strumming, let the dissonance breathe)
[Verse 2]
G D
Doctors came, they heard your cries,
Cadd9 G
They never saw through your perfect disguise,
G D
My body broke, but you stayed whole,
Cadd9 G
You fed on the sympathy, the lie you stole.
[Pre-Chorus]
Em7 Cadd9
Every tear, every word, was your twisted play,
G D
But I’m the one who had to pay.
[Chorus]
G D
You want the attention, but I feel the pain,
Cadd9 G
You wear the mask while I wear the chains,
G D
I was your story, your lie to tell,
Cadd9 G
But I lived it, I lived through your hell.
[Bridge]
Em7 Cadd9
Now I sing, my voice set free,
G D
You can’t own what belongs to me,
Em7 Cadd9
Your shadow fades, your power gone,
G D
And I’ll rise with each new song.
[Chorus]
G D
You want the attention, but I feel the pain,
Cadd9 G
You wear the mask while I wear the chains,
G D
I was your story, your lie to tell,
Cadd9 G
But I lived it, I lived through your hell.
[Outro]
G D
You want the attention, but I’ll take the truth,
Cadd9 G
And break these chains, and live in my youth.
The chords in open G create a resonant, open sound that mirrors the vulnerability and rawness of the lyrics. As the song unfolds, it moves from a place of pain to empowerment, just like Caos’s own journey. Through You Want the Attention, but I Feel the Pain, she not only told her story but also gave voice to others who had endured the same invisible torment, using her music to find healing and strength.
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Caos was the stage name of a woman who had survived a childhood steeped in manipulation, deceit, and physical suffering. Growing up with a mother who suffered from Munchausen syndrome by proxy, Caos endured countless doctor visits, unnecessary treatments, and hospital stays. Her mother fabricated or caused illnesses in her, craving the sympathy and attention that came from being the “devoted” parent of a sick child. For years, Caos felt trapped, her body and mind controlled by her mother’s lies. She wasn’t allowed to be a normal kid, and any attempts to speak out were met with disbelief or guilt. It wasn’t until she reached her late teens that she managed to escape the toxic environment, but the emotional scars ran deep.
Music became her way of processing the pain. Her chosen instrument was the guitar, and she quickly found comfort in open tunings, particularly open G—a tuning that resonated with the vulnerability and rawness of her experiences. With the open strings ringing out in rich harmonics, she felt she could express the confusion, betrayal, and eventual empowerment that marked her journey. She started writing songs that told the stories no one had believed, capturing the twisted dynamic between her and her mother, as well as her eventual freedom. Her unique style, often dissonant but hauntingly beautiful, drew in listeners who connected with the depth of her lyrics and the unflinching honesty of her music. Thus, her solo project, simply called Caos, evolved into a full band that would go on to share these intimate stories with a wider audience.
One of her most powerful songs, You Want the Attention, but I Feel the Pain, became a defining piece of her early work. It’s written in open G tuning (D G D G B D), using simple but emotional chord shapes to reflect the rawness of her memories. Here are the lyrics and chords:
You Want the Attention, but I Feel the Pain
(Open G Tuning: D G D G B D)
[Intro]
G – D – Cadd9
(Let the open strings ring out, slow and steady)
[Verse 1]
G D
You said you loved me, but it’s a twisted game,
Cadd9 G
Wrapped in white coats, you called out my name,
G D
You craved their eyes, you needed their praise,
Cadd9 G
But I was the one locked in your maze.
[Pre-Chorus]
Em7 Cadd9
Every pill, every scar, wasn’t mine to bear,
G D
But you smiled as if you really cared.
[Chorus]
G D
You want the attention, but I feel the pain,
Cadd9 G
You wear the mask while I wear the chains,
G D
I was your story, your lie to tell,
Cadd9 G
But I lived it, I lived through your hell.
[Instrumental Break]
G – D – Cadd9
(Slow and deliberate strumming, let the dissonance breathe)
[Verse 2]
G D
Doctors came, they heard your cries,
Cadd9 G
They never saw through your perfect disguise,
G D
My body broke, but you stayed whole,
Cadd9 G
You fed on the sympathy, the lie you stole.
[Pre-Chorus]
Em7 Cadd9
Every tear, every word, was your twisted play,
G D
But I’m the one who had to pay.
[Chorus]
G D
You want the attention, but I feel the pain,
Cadd9 G
You wear the mask while I wear the chains,
G D
I was your story, your lie to tell,
Cadd9 G
But I lived it, I lived through your hell.
[Bridge]
Em7 Cadd9
Now I sing, my voice set free,
G D
You can’t own what belongs to me,
Em7 Cadd9
Your shadow fades, your power gone,
G D
And I’ll rise with each new song.
[Chorus]
G D
You want the attention, but I feel the pain,
Cadd9 G
You wear the mask while I wear the chains,
G D
I was your story, your lie to tell,
Cadd9 G
But I lived it, I lived through your hell.
[Outro]
G D
You want the attention, but I’ll take the truth,
Cadd9 G
And break these chains, and live in my youth.
The chords in open G create a resonant, open sound that mirrors the vulnerability and rawness of the lyrics. As the song unfolds, it moves from a place of pain to empowerment, just like Caos’s own journey. Through You Want the Attention, but I Feel the Pain, she not only told her story but also gave voice to others who had endured the same invisible torment, using her music to find healing and strength.